Many consider it a bad sign when dysfunction shows up in a relationship.
The earlier the better: Why? If it shows up early, you're making progress and it's truly a blessing. You know it's there. You just don't know exactly what flavor. If they're a goat, you don't have to waste time.
- The fall of man in Gen 3 explains it. We hide, blame shift, and lie.
- Sadly, people are masters at hiding their junk. We claim progress, recovery, I'm in counseling, etc -but is it real? Remember the fruit?
- No worries. You'll find out. My friends chuckle when I refer to dysfunction as swamp gas - it can't be hidden and always bubbles to the surface. Swamp gas is the result of decaying dead things.
- The iceberg analogy also works. Everything looks good above the waterline. But just wait.....😒
- Try to resolve the issues. If the party is unwilling, you know what to do. If you're married, the choice is a bit more difficult.
Application: we're blessed to live in an age where much is written about getting your ducks in a row. Christian self-help books are everywhere. The Bible is a great resource. So is your pastor. Remember the fruit - you must apply these things to your life consistently. Otherwise it's just hot air moving across your lips.
***Blessings on your day. Hope you all are well and dealing with the social distancing.
